However, many do not grow to that maturity at all. Lack of emotional maturity is always worrying about your emotions - feeling as though you are a victim of your own emotions: "Oh! I feel like this! I feel like that! What to do?" What will you do? Who cares about your feelings? Why do you worry so much about your feelings? Your feelings keep changing. Sometimes you feel bad; but the bad feeling doesn't stay with you forever. It changes and you start feeling good once again; but even that 'good' feeling does not stay forever. Nobody can feel bad or good ALL the time; the good and bad feelings come like waves. You can't stop a wave that has already arisen; nor can you make a wave rise just like that. Just as waves come and go, clouds come and go, so also emotions come and go. Waves of different emotion come. And they disappear. But we make it such a big issue: "Oh, I feel good! Oh, I feel bad! I feel this way, I feel that way, nobody cares for me." - all these complaints keep bombarding our minds. This emotional garbage is so useless; and it is also a sign of emotional immaturity.

Emotional maturity, intellectual maturity, physical maturity; you need all these three 'maturities' to be a complete personality. Are you sharp and focused? Are you interested in learning and in growth? If yes, you have matured intellectually. And once you have matured intellectually, do not let emotional immaturity cloud your intellect. By the age of 21, you're supposed to be emotionally and physically strong, and intellectually sharp. Hence, you acquire the right to vote, because you are supposed to be mature - an adult. But this seldom happens!

But what is the big deal about your feelings? I tell you, bundle them up and throw them into the ocean! Once you are rid of your 'feelings' you can be happy, in good spirits. Just examine why your spirits go down? More likely than not because somebody said something stupid to you. And why did they say a stupid thing? Because they had some garbage they needed to throw out; and you were there, ready to catch it. And once you have caught it, you hold on to it so passionately! Come on! Wake up! Don't let your smile be snatched away by anybody!

In this world, everything cannot be perfect all the time. Even the best, the greatest of actions, performed with the noblest of intentions, will have some imperfections. It is but natural. Unfortunately, the tendency of our mind is to grab the imperfection and hold on to it. And in the process, we end up making our moods, our minds imperfect. Our souls reel with this nonsense.

It is imperative to get out of these cycles, and to become strong and courageous from within. And that which gives you that strength, that courage, that smile and that helps you to become unconditionally happy and loving is what is called spirituality.

With reference to my dear iLander friend Star Trekker(startrekker.rediffiland.com)'s latest blog i.e Animal Sense, I also realize that how animal and tribe are step ahead to us.

We so call intelligent creature always treat them as secondary and many times even neglected them. We don't even feel to listen or notice the singles they give us for natural disasters coz we are so busy with our life. No time for noticing singles, we even don't have time to smile at the person living next to us.

As STAR wrote in her blog about tuning with animal, I must say that we don't have any tuning with mother nature or even we are not tuned with our close one for many times.

I request & pray that all of us would at least try to tune with ourself, nature and the people living around us....am I asking something impossible? Let's try to get TUNE!!

Have nice time

Take care n always SMILE

Love,

Vibhs

I am lucky enough to have good friends who used to send me nice quotes and thoughts to increase my knowledge...today again I received one article and from that I selected one thought to share here.

"Be wise enough to know that you don't know anything, Be foolish enough to believe in miracles."

Isn't it really contradictory but really really true, I mean when I look at my life till now I wonder a lot...miracle is not something that one fairy will come and blessed me but's it's a miracle of support, care and love of the people around you. Being the intelligent is not the priority of life.. See the following short philosophy...

And the care the normal people around you, who make the real miracle in your life, their love and support to you in any condition will make you stronger enough to fight with any situation and when you come out of that phase you will realize the miracle.

This is all what I wanted to share with you all...with you coz you are among those who made miracle in my life.

Thanks

Love,

Vibhs

Hello friends,

Here is one enlightening thought which make me enlighten and also make me laugh, I almost fell down fm my chair when I see the picture to (keep patience till the pic upload). ... My effort to make you laugh is successful....isn't it??

Love,

Vibhs

On the coming occasion of Maha Shiv Ratri I would like to share grate spiritual Gyan I come across.even if you are not religious this is more on spiritual side and show the path of Devine and Nirvana.

Love, Vibhs

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This is referred to as "Athmashtak" or "Nirvana Shataka" but is commonly
known as "Shivoham Shivoham...." composed by Jagadguru Adi Shankaracharya. Adi Shankaracharya reaffirms that the root cause of birth and death is ignorance. Once this ignorance has been dissolved and no longer existsone can reach the Sahasra-Chakra. One can look out towards the cosmos and some of the thoughts and feelings come to Shanakaracharya are expressed in the song where each stanza ends with "........ Chidananda Rupah Shivoham. Shivoham- The Shiva in All "

To teach the unity behind the appearance of multiplicity, to help realise the Adwaita (non-dual nature of existence), Adi Shankara, the great expounder of the Advaita school of thought. One day, Shankara was seated in meditation on the banks of the river Ganga. Suddenly, he exclaimed, "Lord! I am yours; but, surely, you are not mine." His pupil, Thotakacharya was by his side then; he was astonished at this statement, which, according to him, went against the Advaitic principle. So, he asked him how he could ever declare any distinction between you and I. Shankara replied, "The waves belong to the ocean; but, the ocean does not belong to the wave. The wave is the ocean, but the ocean is not the wave." The main point of this argument is, the elimination of ego, the elimination of one's identification with the body and its needs, certifiable through the senses. For, one gets joy when these needs are fulfilled or grief when they are not fulfilled, anger when something comes in the way, pride when one wins
over that opposition.

To eliminate the ego, strengthen the belief that all objects belong to God, and that
all are holding them on trust. This would prevent pride; it is also the truth. Then,
when one loses something, one would not grieve. God gave it and later God took
away. Of course everyone hears almost all philosophers propose this course and
advise this reaction. But very few follow the advice themselves. This is the biggest problem; saying something but practicing quite the opposite, denying in practice what one asserts as precept.

NIRVANA SHATAKA (Atmashataka)

Mano buddhya-hankara chittani naham
Na cha shrotra jihve, na cha ghrana netre
Na cha vyoma bhumirna tejo na vayuhu
Chidananda rupah shivoham shivoham . (1)
(I am not the mind, intellect, thought, ego, or some form of the supreme being; I
neither have ears, nor tongue and I neither have nose (nostrils) nor eyes; I am not
the sky, earth, light or the wind; I am the fortunate, joyful, supreme being who is
the very emblem of truth, knowledge and eternal bliss. I myself am the spiritual joy of pure consciousness - Shiva; Shivoham, Shivoham.)

Na cha prana sangno na vai pancha vayuhu
Na va sapta dhatur na va pancha koshaha
Na vak pani padau na chopastha payoo
Chidananda rupah shivoham shivoham .(2).
(I am not the most essential air that everyone breathes. Nor a part of essential five gases related to bodily functions (which are Prana, Aparna, Vyana, Udana and Samana). I am not the seven-fold material (Rasa, Rakta, Mamsa, Medas, Asthi, Majja and Shukra) that help in body's physical development, I am not part of five coverings that help to build up the personality (food, air, mind, knowledge or wisdom and pleasure). Nor am I the five organs of action (which are speech/mouth, hands, feet, reproductive and rectum), I am the fortunate, joyful, supreme being who is the very emblem of truth, knowledge and eternal bliss. I myself am the spiritual joy of pure consciousness - Shiva; Shivoham, Shivoham.)

Na me dvesha ragau na me lobha mohau
Mado naiva me naiva matsarya bhavah
Na dharmo na chartho na kamo na mokshah
Chidananda rupah shivoham shivoham .(3).
(I have no likes or dislikes; Not I have any greed or delusion; I have no pride or
arrogant vanity; Nor am I jealous of anyone or in competition with anyone ; I do not need the four main necessities of life (which are Dharma (Law of Life), Artha
(Wealth), Kama (Desires) and Moksha (Liberation); I am the fortunate, joyful,
supreme being who is the very emblem of truth, knowledge and eternal bliss. I
myself am the spiritual joy of pure consciousness - Shiva; Shivoham, Shivoham.)

Na punyam na papam na saukhyam na dukham
Na mantro na tirtham na veda na yagnaha
Aham bhojanam naiva bhojyam na bhokta
Chidananda rupah shivoham shivoham .(4).
(I am not attached to any righteousness or sin; I have neither pleasure nor sorrow; I have no need for any Mantra; I have no need for pilgrimages ; I have no need for any sacred scriptures; nor do I perform any sacrifise or rituals; I am neither the meal nor the one who consumes or what is consumed; I am the fortunate, joyful, supreme being who is the very emblem of truth, knowledge and eternal bliss. I myself am the spiritual joy of pure consciousness - Shiva; Shivoham, Shivoham.)

Na me mrutyu shanka na me jati bhedah
Pita naiva me naiva mata na janma
Na bandhur na mitram gurur naiva shishyah
Chidananda rupah shivoham shivoham .(5).
(I have no fear of death, nor do I have caste distinctions; I neither have a father nor mother because I was never born; I have neither kin/relatives nor friends; I have no gurus and nor am I a disciple; I am the fortunate, joyful, supreme being who is the very emblem of truth, knowledge and eternal bliss. I myself am the spiritual joy of pure consciousness - Shiva; Shivoham, Shivoham.)

Aham nirvikalpo nirakara rupo
Vibhur vyapya sarvatra sarvendriyanam
Sada me samatvam na muktir na bandhah
Chidananda rupah shivoham shivoham .(6).
(I am free of thoughts and beyond imagination since I have no form; I am all pervading and exist everywhere; I am the king of all sense-organs; I am always
impartial to everything and everyone,; I am free from everything and I have no
attachment to anything; I am the fortunate, joyful, supreme being who is the very
emblem of truth, knowledge and eternal bliss. I myself am the spiritual joy of pure consciousness - Shiva; Shivoham, Shivoham.)

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Love can only Blossom in Freedom. When freedom is restricted, love suffocates. You need to be free. Often love stifles, when you are in love or you love somebody, you feel stifled because you are obliged. When there are so many obligations that you need to fulfill, than this obligation became load on your head and you get the added responsibility not to hurt the people you love and who you love you. In a subtle sense, this take freedom away and slowly demands start arising in you. The moment demand arises in you; know that love is on the death- bed. Love is in oxygen chamber and it does not live very long.

Demand destroys love. Freedom is essential.

So wether in the world, in religious or in spiritual matters, follows love rather than the rules.

LOVE.

Vibhs

Greetings from freezing Ahmedabad...here we are having so much cold which is unusal for the city. Winter is making me lazy to write I realize that wrote last on 23 Jan...and at the same moment I recd one nice SMS,

The moment you think of giving up, think of the reason why you held for so long. "DO OR DIE" is an old saying. "DO IT BEFORE YOU DIE" is the latest saying.

I keep this blog open to react/take action on such a wonderful "Never Give Up" attitude quote. It's our own responsibility to maintain such attitude in life.

I wish you all the best and also to myself that I should also follow it.

Love n regards,

Vibhs

P.s: Give me hot masala tea yaar my fingers frizzed again J!!

Sharing a nice story that I happened to receive this morning from a dear friend. Loads of messages hidden within this - for both proponents and skeptics.........this is something I love and follow for life. It's not about religeon but it's all about Spirituality.

love,

Vibhs

Once there was a king who was very fond of flowers. He had bought a lot of expensive pots with beautiful & fragrant flowers. He had them arranged in the courtyard just next to his bedroom & hired a person to take proper care of them.

Once that fellow broke one pot by mistake while arranging them. The king became furious to hear about this. He was a cruel & senseless king. He sentenced his servant to death for this pity mistake. He was ordered to be hanged after two months. The king's minister pleaded mercy for the poor fellow but he did not listen. To find death inevitable, the poor servant started praying to God.

Meawhile the king declared a reward for anyone who could repair the broken pot & make it exactly same as it used to be. Many people came & tried their luck but in vain.

How could a broken pot be repaired exactly like before? How could any doctor bring back life to a dead person? This mortal human body also is irrepairable. Even if a surgeon tries his best to put back the broken parts, it can never be the same; there is always some imperfection remaining. Similarly a kite when torn apart can never be made to look like before even if one applies all kind of glues. How could anyone ever do this?

The servant on the other hand was counting his days. He would every now & then pray to God to somehow make king's mind change so that his life is spared.

A month passed by like this. Then a saint visited that city. He heard about this reward which the king had declared for anyone who could repair the broken flower pot. He also learnt about the death sentence given to the poor servant who broke it.

That saintly person went to the king's court & said "I take the responsibilty of joining back your broken pot. Show it to me" The king took the saint to his palace where all the flower pots were kept. The saint looked deeply at the broken pot. He also looked at all the other two dozen unbroken pots. He passed a divine smile towards the king. Then he asked for a stick. The servant brought him one. As soon as he got it, he started breaking all other flower pots. For sometime, the king totally confused at this scene kept wondering what is this way of repairing. May be this saintly person knows some new method. Then he looked at the saint who was standing fearlessly after having broken all the pots. He yelled "O saint! what have you done?"

The saint replied "I saved the life of two dozen poor people who at some point in time would have broken these pots."

The king became furious & ordered that the saint be trampled under the feet of an elephant. The saint was a spiritually enlightened person. He had deeply experienced the teachings of the Vedas. He believed firmly in the universality of the soul & its oneness with GOD. He knew that the physical body is bound to be destroyed someday while the inner soul can never ever die. He'd never get frightened by even the worst of the worst situations since he was beyound death & birth.

An elephant was brought in front of him. The saint peacefully lied down on the ground & meditating on "So..hum.. Shivo..hum" (I am That.. I am Shiva ..The supreme lord) "Supreme Lord is prevalent all around. The elephant is also the supreme lord & so is its master. The king who ordered this execution is also the supreme lord & the one lying down on the ground is also the same supreme lord." "The lord itself is playing with its own various forms. So..hum" "The minister standing in the corner is also the dear lord & the soldier holding a sword in the hand is also the same lord. The whole public watching this is also the supreme lord having taken various forms from tiny kids to veiled women."

The blissful saint continued meditating like this visualizing the presence of supreme lord in every body around him. The master of the elephant whipped it hard but the elephant simply refused to go near the saint. Another elephant was brought in. But he also stopped within two feet of the meditating saint. His master also tried hard but in vain. The king finally gave up & asked the saint "Do you know any kind of mantra which brings every elephant under your control?" The saint smiled & said " I do not know any mantra to control an elephant but I do know the mantra to control the self. I know the mantra of love"

No matter how bad one may think of you or make plans to hurt you, but if you do not think bad about him, then nothing in the world has the power to do bad to you. He may keep cursing you in his heart but he will never be able to do bad to you.

The saint said: "Oh King! When I lay straight then thinking about the Dear God in the elephant, you & me, I started loving Him & thought of good things to happen to the elephant. I thought of welfare of the elephant & you.

If I would have thought bad for you, then your bad qualities could have become powerful. If I would have felt jealous of you, then jealousy could have become powerful inside you. If I would have felt hatred for you, then hatred could have become powerful inside you. But friend! why should I pollute my heart by having hatred & jealousy for you?

I have got over ignorance by the grace of my Guruji. That is why the elephant could not hurt me even when it was pecked to do so again & again. If the destiny of the body would have been to die in this way, then nobody could have stopped the death. In that case even if you were protecting this body, it would not have lived longer. If destiny did not have this kind of death, then how does it matter if ten kings like you get annoyed! What harm can anybody do? Even if you get pleased how does it matter! I've done the work that I intended to do.

This body can die any second. It cannot become immortal. When this body is mortal then how can the pots become immortal. These will get destroyed & will vanish one day. The plant shall also die. You are taking the life of a servant for a plant which will anyway die soon. Therefore using the stick I broke all pots to give you a lesson that these are mortal objects. Do not ruin the kindness of your heart by having attraction for these immortal things."

The king was highly influenced by the words of the saint. He came down his throne & begged for forgiveness. He cancelled the death sentence on the servant. Then he took "Guru Mantra" from the saint & set his journey on the road to God.

Belated wishes for Makar Shankranti (Uttrayan)! In Gujarat we celebrate this festival with Kites, and as we Gujjus are not satisfied with one day i.e 14^th January so we stretch it for 15^th Jan also....I enjoyed these two days very much. Still in that hangover and when I open my inbox, I recd many fwd messages.all are common but one picture attracted me and insist me to write today's blog. Otherwise I was still in lazy moooooood to carry on laziness!!

The picture posted here (bare with me till it upload by rediff) is just like our life...I guess when we were born we were like the flower here....'Gray'.. "Color-less" n may be its life less too!! N gradually all our near one start dropping "a drop" of their love with their own color....Maa, Papa, Didi, Bhaiya, Ancle, Aunt....then after few years friends add their 'drops'...which add more color to the life and then come love of the life..with everyone's contribution life picture compete with beautiful colors. What a wonderful world....and COLORFUL Life!!!

I was with all my dear and near ones during last two festival days so I feel that all the happiness is happiness because it comes with wonderful people around you. Think of the time when u celebrated festival living alone..it's more like a spice without salt! I wish all of you would always around with your near, dear & love ones and never be alone.

Have gr8 time always

Love,

Vibhs

PS: Fm fwd SMS: God doesnt give people you want, instead he give you people you need........to teach you, to hurt you, to love you and make you xactly what S/HE wants you to be..........